If the pins are getting bent, then that means they're not in the holes. you must make sure that the black plastic tabs are oriented correctly (unlocked) or this type of problem will happen. Pay close attention to the installation diagrams that came with the cpu. The black tabs rotate 90 degrees. When unlocked, the black tabs should be in the "up" position. Pictures are worth a thousand words. Here's a detailed guide with lots of pics. Let me know how you make out.
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