The receiver I'm using is a Pioneer VSX1019AHK
Pioneer VSX1019AHK Home Theatre Receiver vsx-1019ah-k
As for software, I've tried VLC Media Player and Windows Media player. I've tried these in conjunction with AC3 Filter 1.63b. Tried Haali Splitter 64bit beta to try to break the .mkv down into it's audio/video signals for proper processing, but no luck.
I'm not sure the driver version of my onboard sound, but I can look that up when I get home.
I'm at the point now where I'd pay for decent software to get this running properly. All these free programs are just a pain in the butt to configure properly and it seems hit and miss for them to work together.